Dec 23,09 – Jan 7,10
December 23, 2009 through January 7, 2010
In the last week and half I really seem to be in a downward spiral with a few nice level cushions on the way. On the 23rd, Doris, the ABC director, who called me asked a few questions. Well I gave honest answers but later in the week she took my answers and made an excuse to get rid of me as the backup janitor. Now it is January second, I still sit in torment because of my wife.
Since my wife believes of the excuse as completely my fault and will not believe anything I said. So Doris and my wife took it as I was “too tired to work”. Doris called me with her decision that day the 23rd.
Burger King didn’t give me any hours at all, but they dropped them. In the last two weeks I went down from 10 hours to 5 hours. After the 24 hour flu I had on December 29th. Friday, I went to Burger King and got my check and later I found out my wife’s hours were changed now from 35 to 25 hours a week. I wanted
to pick up the slack but burger king haven’t been doing so well during the holidays. These results only made me sad and wish that I can do more.
My wife and I had an average new year’s eve and day. We spend our New Year’s Day and Eve at my in-laws and it was a socializing, television watching, and a few giggles here and there. Overall it wasn’t too bad; we did in up watching the Ohio State and Oregon game in the Rose Bowl. I am grateful that OSU won and
the score was 26 to 17. Other than the OSU game, I did try a shot of whiskey which did not my sciences until the next morning. I woke up with my nose clogged all over again. It did not go away until the morning of January second.
My wife and I are OK. My wife and I had our moments but we got through them. The only moments we had our fights was about the ABC situation for another dumb thing. The other dumb thing I have done since Thanksgiving Day until December
28. Of course if my parents found out, they would probably kill me. I went back to smoking for the fifth time in that period of time. Although with that in mind I had a lot of hard times but I still went “Cold Turkey”, and I have not lived up one cigarette since. I am truly embarrassed for those actions since I have quit five times in my life. I am also a shame because my wife will forgive
or forget it. She’d rather torture me with it and trust me no more.
As for the ABC Center, I thought about talking or sending a letter to Doris about the situation with the “to tired” conversation.
On January 2, 2010, my wife and I battled a little bit around nine to eleven that morning. After the battles, we’ve left each other alone. Later that night we got along just fine and I continued to write to my wordpress audience.
On January 3, it started fine however it went rotten and quickly. When my wife and I were headed to church and all of the sudden my wife got mad. I asked her what was wrong she said it was the car seat cover. She said it was not high enough and I try to fix it. However she just got mad and went to the house. I
went to church and she cleaned house while I had Grace. When I arrived at church and sat down and my friend Tammy got involved quickly. She took my car and went to see my wife. By the time the she talk to my wife the service was over. When I arrived home I arrived with loud Christian music. I try to help
her clean but it just made her mad. I went upstairs and started laundry. I sat down and chair for about half an hour. Then I went to my parents, and my father fixed my car. After my father fixes my car we’ve watched some of the Browns game, but listen to it on the way home. The Cleveland Browns won their fourth
straight game and it ended their 2009 and 2010 season. When I got home I went upstairs and I snuggled up to my wife and I fell asleep. My wife woke up and got Grace fed and ready to go. She took her to the evening church service. It just placed me by myself for an hour and so.
As for what has happened between January fourth and seventh, all I have been doing has been shoveling snow and watching movies with Grace. My wife has been a lot better especially through our times without hot water because the hot water went out. Now all I have to worry about is snow and Grace.
—-Christopher L. Bolles (1/7/10)
January 9, 2010 at 09:14
Chris, I’m glad to see you working through life. It’s difficult at times. Good to know that you’re not giving up.
One word of advice: Please do not write about your conflicts with your wife.
Everyone has conflicts with their spouse, including me. Like many things in marriage, conflict should be kept private between the husband and wife. This way, both parties know that they are safe, respected and valued. If you and I had an argument, I know I would not appreciate seeing it on the internet for the world to see.
Instead of the conflicts, I challenge you to write about what makes you happy about your marriage.
This will make you a better writer because of the work involved. Anyone can complain, but it takes skill to be thankful. This will inspire others in their marriage. You are in public; use the platform and be an example. And this will bring you and your wife closer. What girl doesn’t want their husband telling the world why he’s crazy about her?
January 19, 2010 at 18:39
Your right again joseph, that can be a task sometimes but it would make me a better writter.